I love the look on my kids’ faces when I have caught them doing something wrong. On the one hand their guilt is obvious. On the other hand, though, they look at me with huge eyes, trying to convince me that they haven’t done anything wrong. Even though we both know they’re guilty, so many times they still try their best to hide what they’ve done and pretend there’s nothing wrong.
Most of the time I find it hard to get angry with them when they do that because their actions remind me of an important part of our natural human condition. We do wrong in lots of different ways. Yet we all try so hard to hide what we have done – from other people, from God and even from ourselves. Maybe we’re worried that people might think less of us or not love us anymore if they knew what we’ve done. Maybe we don’t want to face the guilt or shame that comes with doing wrong. Maybe we just don’t want to shatter the illusion that we really are good people.
Hiding the wrongs we have done can serious effect our well-being. I’ve known people who have carried guilt for something they had done for decades and seen the damage it can do. It can be like a cancer that we carry with us, eating us away from the inside, affecting our sense of self-worth and our relationships with other people.
There are lots of ways I’ve seen people try to hide from the guilt they carry. The most effective remedy I’ve seen, however, is forgiveness to help people find freedom from guilt and a greater sense of personal well-being. Confession and forgiveness was intended to be God’s gift to liberate us from guilt, not just an empty ritual. The act of confessing our wrongs and receiving forgiveness for them carries with it a power to heal our hearts, free our minds and give us a greater sense of well-being in our lives.
The writer of Psalm 32 knew the blessings that come with confessing sin and receiving forgiveness. He opens the psalm by stating that the person whose disobedience is forgiven and whose sin is covered is truly blessed (v1). This isn’t just a theological concept for the person writing this psalms but his lived reality! This person knew the joy that comes from having a record that’s been cleared of all guilt, and who can live in the honesty of their own flaws and failures (v2).
Especially as people who live in the light of the cross of Christ, we can find peace, hope and even joy in the forgiveness God gives us through the Holy Spirit. Jesus has embraced our humanity with all our flaws, failures and brokenness in his birth. Jesus has taken our sin from us and has put it to death in his crucifixion. Jesus has given us a new, guilt-free life through faith in his resurrection and his victory over sin, death and the devil’s power. Jesus came to free us from guilt, not to make us feel bad for the wrongs we have done.
So why do we continue to hide from our wrongs? Like the writer of this psalm, when we try to hide our guilt or hide from the wrongs we have done, we will continue to carry them and they will eat away at us and our relationships. When we confess them, however, our Father in heaven will only speak words of forgiveness, mercy and love because of what Jesus did for us on the cross. We have nothing to fear!
I hope that my kids will learn as they get older that they can tell me anything and all they will get from me is forgiveness and love. There will always be consequences for the wrongs we do because that’s how we learn about what is right and wrong. However, as we read in Hebrews 12:7-11, God disciplines his children because he loves us and wants what is best for us. He will never condemn us but will always freely forgive us because of the life, death and resurrection of his Son, Jesus. So we don’t need to hide the wrongs we have done from him or from ourselves. When we confess our sin and guilt, God will always forgive us so we can find freedom from our sin, a greater well-being within ourselves, and the capacity to extend his forgiveness to everyone who wrongs us.