Confession (Psalm 32)

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I love the look on my kids’ faces when I have caught them doing something wrong. On the one hand their guilt is obvious. On the other hand, though, they look at me with huge eyes, trying to convince me that they haven’t done anything wrong. Even though we both know they’re guilty, so many times they still try their best to hide what they’ve done and pretend there’s nothing wrong.

Most of the time I find it hard to get angry with them when they do that because their actions remind me of an important part of our natural human condition. We do wrong in lots of different ways. Yet we all try so hard to hide what we have done – from other people, from God and even from ourselves. Maybe we’re worried that people might think less of us or not love us anymore if they knew what we’ve done. Maybe we don’t want to face the guilt or shame that comes with doing wrong. Maybe we just don’t want to shatter the illusion that we really are good people.

Hiding the wrongs we have done can serious effect our well-being. I’ve known people who have carried guilt for something they had done for decades and seen the damage it can do. It can be like a cancer that we carry with us, eating us away from the inside, affecting our sense of self-worth and our relationships with other people.

There are lots of ways I’ve seen people try to hide from the guilt they carry. The most effective remedy I’ve seen, however, is forgiveness to help people find freedom from guilt and a greater sense of personal well-being. Confession and forgiveness was intended to be God’s gift to liberate us from guilt, not just an empty ritual. The act of confessing our wrongs and receiving forgiveness for them carries with it a power to heal our hearts, free our minds and give us a greater sense of well-being in our lives.

The writer of Psalm 32 knew the blessings that come with confessing sin and receiving forgiveness. He opens the psalm by stating that the person whose disobedience is forgiven and whose sin is covered is truly blessed (v1). This isn’t just a theological concept for the person writing this psalms but his lived reality! This person knew the joy that comes from having a record that’s been cleared of all guilt, and who can live in the honesty of their own flaws and failures (v2).

Especially as people who live in the light of the cross of Christ, we can find peace, hope and even joy in the forgiveness God gives us through the Holy Spirit. Jesus has embraced our humanity with all our flaws, failures and brokenness in his birth. Jesus has taken our sin from us and has put it to death in his crucifixion. Jesus has given us a new, guilt-free life through faith in his resurrection and his victory over sin, death and the devil’s power. Jesus came to free us from guilt, not to make us feel bad for the wrongs we have done.

So why do we continue to hide from our wrongs? Like the writer of this psalm, when we try to hide our guilt or hide from the wrongs we have done, we will continue to carry them and they will eat away at us and our relationships. When we confess them, however, our Father in heaven will only speak words of forgiveness, mercy and love because of what Jesus did for us on the cross. We have nothing to fear!

I hope that my kids will learn as they get older that they can tell me anything and all they will get from me is forgiveness and love. There will always be consequences for the wrongs we do because that’s how we learn about what is right and wrong. However, as we read in Hebrews 12:7-11, God disciplines his children because he loves us and wants what is best for us. He will never condemn us but will always freely forgive us because of the life, death and resurrection of his Son, Jesus. So we don’t need to hide the wrongs we have done from him or from ourselves. When we confess our sin and guilt, God will always forgive us so we can find freedom from our sin, a greater well-being within ourselves, and the capacity to extend his forgiveness to everyone who wrongs us.

Living Free (Galatians 5:1,13-25)

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I don’t think it’s exaggerating to say that every aspect of our lives has rules. We might call them different names, or try to present them in various ways, but in one way or another every part of our lives carry expectations or requirements for what we should or should not do.

I can understand, then, why people see Christianity the same way. It is our natural human tendency to want to know what we can get away with, what we’re allowed or not allowed to do, and then either conform or rebel against them. The main way people from outside the church perceive the Christian message is that if you’re a good person you’ll go to heaven when you die, but if you’re a bad person you’ll go to hell. It’s tragic that I’ve met people inside the church who think something similar: if you keep the rules you’ll go to heaven, but if you break the rules you’ll go to hell.

The beauty and the scandal of the Christian message is that the rules don’t determine our relationship with God or our place in God’s kingdom. If they did, we’d all be in deep trouble because we’ve all sinned and fallen short of who God wants us to be and what God wants us to do (Romans 3:23). Instead, God brings about a new way of living in relationship with him as members of his Kingdom through faith in Jesus (Romans 3:28). God loves us and accepts us because of Jesus’ life, death and resurrection for us, not because we keep the rules.

What that means is that God can’t love us any more if we keep the rules, and he won’t love us any less if we break the rules!

This faith gives us freedom. This is Paul’s main point in his letter to the Galatian church. There were people there who were making the Christian message and membership in the Kingdom of God conditional on whether or not people kept the rules, in particular the Old Testament rule about circumcision. Paul’s main idea in Galatians is that ‘in Christ Jesus neither circumcision nor uncircumcision has any value. The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love’ (Galatians 5:6 NIV). Living as a Christian is not about keeping or breaking the rules. The only thing that counts is trusting that Jesus’ life, death and resurrection gives us a new relationship with God as his children and living out that faith in Christ-like love for other people.

The big danger of this message is that we like using our freedom for our own benefit. Paul recognises this so he writes, ‘You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love’ (v13 NLT). When we use our freedom for our own gain or in selfish ways, we forfeit our freedom because we become slaves to sin again instead of living as God’s free people. The way to exercise our freedom is to use it to trust in Jesus’ love for us and love others in the way that Jesus has loved us.

That is why it is so important to be recognizing the love of Jesus in our lives and remaining in Jesus’ love (see John 15:4). As we grow in his love for us, the Holy Spirit equips us to love others in the same way. We won’t need rules to tell us how to love others because love will flow freely and naturally. Love isn’t something that you can command. It flows from the experience of being loved. As we learn the way of Jesus’ love, the Holy Spirit will guide us in this love so we can extend this love to other people.

That’s why Paul tells us to ‘let the Holy Spirit guide our lives’ (v16a), to be ‘directed by the Spirit’ (v18) and to be ‘living by the Spirit’ as we ‘follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives’ (v25). Living in faith and love doesn’t come naturally for us. Our natural tendency is to trust ourselves more than to trust in Jesus. We tend to want what suits us instead of loving others. So we need the Spirit’s guidance and leading in our lives so we can trust Jesus and love others in every aspect of our lives.

This is different to looking for the Holy Spirit to tell us what to do in life. If being guided by the Spirit means looking for God to tell us to do one thing or not do another, this can easily become another set of rules to live by. The freedom Paul talks about isn’t looking for the Holy Spirit to tells us what to do. It’s looking for the Spirit’s guidance in living in faith and love in all of our life’s circumstances.

As a parent, I am always telling my young children what to do or not do. However, I don’t want to tell them what they should or shouldn’t do for the rest of their lives. As they grow and mature, I hope that they will do what is right and good on their own because they love me and they what to do what is right and good. This is living in freedom – not doing good because they have to or because I tell them to, but just because they can. Living in the freedom that Jesus gives is the same. I hear Paul saying that our loving heavenly Father wants to free us from having to be told what to do. God wants us to trust him and his love for us in Jesus so we live in love for others. This is what we call becoming mature followers of Jesus.

A couple of weeks ago I talked about Jesus promising to send us the Spirit of truth to guide us into truth. One way we can understand God’s truth into which the Holy Spirit wants to lead us is that God wants us to live as his free, mature children. This freedom and maturity don’t mean living by a set of rules or being told what to do. The freedom Jesus wants us to live in is faith and love – trusting that his life, death and resurrection brings us into a new relationship with God as his children whom he loves, and loving other people in the same way Jesus loves us.

Keeping the rules won’t make God love you any more. Breaking the rules can’t make God love you any less. All that matters now is trusting that good news, and expressing that faith in Christ-like love for others.

More to think about:

  • How do you understand the idea of ‘freedom’? What does it look like in your life?
  • From what you know of the Christian message, do you think of it more about following rules or living in freedom? Can you explain why?
  • what do you think Paul means when he writes, ‘It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery’ (Galatians 5:1 NIV)? What do you think the ‘freedom’ is that he is talking about?
  • How is the ‘freedom’ Paul writes about similar or different to how you usually think about freedom?
  • What is your reaction to the statement that ‘Keeping the rules can’t make God love you any more and breaking the rules won’t make God love you any less’? Would you agree or disagree with it? Explain why…
  • How is living in faith and love (Galatians 5:6b) different from living by a set of rules? Which way would you prefer to live? Why?
  • How might your life look different if your starting point in any decision was to ask  the Holy Spirit to lead you in the way of faith and love by trusting Jesus and loving others? How might your relationships be different? How might your church be different?